There was a recent incident which took place in Jeddah. A Pakistani couple claim they were accosted by a Saudi couple in a public place of business. However, all anyone has to go on is the expatriate’s account of the incident. We all know there are always two sides to every story.
The incident, from what the expatriate couple are stating, seemed to stem from an initial altercation between the Pakistani woman and a Saudi woman. The altercation intensified and the husband’s became involved.
There have been no accounts from any witnesses of the incident. Yet the incident as it was relayed evoked shock, outrage and sympathy for the Pakistani couple. Senior officials from the place of business were made aware of the incident and contacted the Pakistani couple. A well known English language daily in the Kingdom even carried an article about the incident with an apology to the Pakistani couple.
Yet since the incident has taken place, instead of responding with grace and a positive outlook, the Pakistani woman seems more intent on raising ire with Saudi nationals, expatriates in the Kingdom and her own homeland.
As a result, support and sympathy for the couple is dwindling. The Pakistani woman even created a specific Facebook Page for further discussions about the incident and demand for change to occur within the Kingdom on Saudis attitudes of expatriates.
American Bedu was part of the Facebook Group but found herself unceremoniously removed from the group when declaring that what the Pakistani woman was now doing and saying was not appropriate.
I can live with being declared persona non grata of a Facebook Group. But I will restate what I believe was sound advice to the Pakistani woman. If one is dissatisfied with action or lack thereof from an incident in Saudi Arabia, do not continue to talk badly about your host country. Even –if- (which is now questionable) she has a valid complaint, she remains a guest in the country. Both she and her husband are under the sponsorship of a Saudi employer. Secondly, it is not appropriate to post private correspondence between her and her country’s Consulate in a public Facebook Group. In addition, although she is not satisfied with the response from the Consulate, she should not mock her country’s role in Saudi Arabia and its relationship with the Kingdom.
Okay, enough of what should not have been done. Instead she should have filed a report with the manager at the place of business where the incident occurred. The police should have been called immediately. Statements should have been collected from witnesses. She did notify her Consulate. She did speak with senior officials at the place of business. However, rather than complain and make a mockery of the positive that took place, she should instead have delivered a comprehensive –and realistic- action plan of what she wanted to see in the way of restitution and resolution. Details of which should remain between her and the officials involved, rather than share in a “dissing” manner on a public Facebook Page.
It is American Bedu’s assessment based on her own years of experience that the Pakistani woman, more so than her husband, is enjoying her “15 minutes of global fame” and trying to prolong the attention to herself. Instead of reaching a positive resolution her husband may very well receive unwanted pressure due to his wife’s inappropriate actions.
Wrongs can be righted but it must be done within the parameters of an established procedure.