There has been greater global coverage in the press and on different blogs and other social media about Saudi men getting a foreign woman pregnant and then abandoning her and the child. The fact that so many young Saudi men are unwilling and not ready to be fathers makes me wonder why they (obviously) chose not to use protection such as a condom?
I know from my own experiences in Saudi Arabia that there is little to no sex education taught in the schools or Universities. Most young Saudis learn sex education from friends or trusted family members and exactly what or how much they learn is debatable.
Additionally, growing up in a gender segregated environment does have an impact that Saudi youth will have many curious and arousing thoughts about the opposite sex. The lack of contact seems to magnify the allure and temptations.
Therefore, when the young Saudi man has the opportunity to travel outside of the Kingdom whether for schooling, business or pleasure, many take the opportunity to engage in sexual relations. Once they find themselves in a more open society without segregation it is not difficult for them to find a woman to charm and engage in an intimate relationship.
Sadly, most of them are probably thinking of only the self-gratification and not the fact that a sexual encounter can have long lasting implications such as a pregnancy. It probably does not occur to them either that engaging in relations with an individual also poses the risk of a sexually transmitted disease (STD).
Why does a Saudi man choose not to use a condom as a protection for himself and for the prevention of an unwanted pregnancy? Because Islam promotes and encourages large families, a Saudi man probably does not think about a condom. If anyone is going to take care of birth control, it is usually the woman. In private discussions with either women or Saudi men, the most common phrase on why the man does not use a condom is that “he wants the encounter to feel natural.” Others have stated that using a condom is too confining or just an annoyance.
It seems that the Saudi man most likely to use a condom when having intimate relations is the man who chooses to use the services of a prostitute. Additionally, some married Saudi couples have chosen the condom as a birth control mechanism. However, the single Saudi male who wishes to have intimate relations is the most likely not to use a condom or seem to think about consequences by not taking appropriate protection to avoid an unwanted pregnancy or STD.
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