When I receive enough email queries on one particular subject, I will then, as I am now, write an individual blog post on the topic. Today, it’s about foreign women who believe they can not only change but “mold” their Saudi.
I’m not going to deny that romantic relationships do not happen between Saudi’s outside of the Kingdom with foreign women and especially between Saudi students and foreign women. Yes, this happens routinely and will likely continue to happen. Most, however, do not have a happily ever after ending.
Many Saudis outside of the Kingdom will take the opportunity to embrace and experience a new country, its cultures and traditions. In America for example, they may give every appearance and indication of having become more American than Saudi. They may have – during their respite outside of their country.
Yes, they may even attend church services with a foreign girlfriend. They’ve never had the experience to enter a church let alone observe a service. They may do so both out of curiosity and a desire to please a foreign girlfriend. But do not assume that a Saudi is going to automatically turn his back on his heritage, his country and his religion. Furthermore, to insist that he denounce his religion in order to continue a non-halal relationship with a foreign woman is not going to happen. It’s truly the ideal recipe for a perfect storm.
Yet I receive emails from non-Saudi women who are so confident that their Saudi has become totally Westernized and will bend to their rule for love. They cite how he goes to church and is “almost like an American but only better.” Then comes the crashing disappointment when the woman discovers he moves on either to Saudi Arabia or perhaps to another relationship. They are so disappointed and feel betrayed.
For women in such a situation I hope you’ll take some advice from the heart. You can’t and should not try to change the inner core of what makes a person who he is. A relationship takes communication and compromise not demands and assumptions. Last but not least, the odds of an ongoing long term relationship between a Saudi student and a foreign woman are minimal at best. Just accept and enjoy the opportunity to have a male friend from a country whose culture, customs, traditions and religion is difference. Appreciate and learn but do not set yourself up for false hopes and crashing disappointments.
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