This post is directed to the Western woman who has fallen in love with a Saudi while he is outside of his home country.
A Saudi man can be the most charming and most gracious man when he is courting a woman. He has words which make the woman feel like the most cherished and pampered Princess. He will tell her that there is no one like her and he will not have a life without her. He will show consideration and manners of a Prince to her family and friends. They will all congratulate her for finding such a likeable man.
The young woman is very proud to have such a man as her partner. He is charming, handsome, articulate and more than anything she has ever dreamed in a man. She probably will not question him too deeply and take all of his words to heart, including how he will love her forever and someday carry her to Saudi Arabia.
She probably does not know a lot about life in Saudi Arabia and may imagine it as a country where all are rich and she will live like a Royal Princess in a magnificent villa and ride in a chauffeured driven Rolls Royce. After all, her Saudi wears the latest fashions, drives a new sports car and never seems to worry about money as they go out together to all the trendy places. Why should she expect anything different in Saudi Arabia?
Therefore it is not surprising that at some point this western girl and her Saudi segue to an intimate relationship. With this new intimacy comes a greater awareness on her part that when he finishes his schooling or training, he will likely be returning to Saudi Arabia. When she brings up the subject to him, he carelessly tosses her worries away. “Don’t worry,” he says, “You are the love of my life. I will never leave you alone.”
She may choose to become less careful with birth control and months before his planned return to his home, she breaks the words to him that she is pregnant. Instead of the reaction she expects, his body becomes rigid and he questions her about birth control. He is not overjoyed like she had hoped and feels him starting to pull away from her. Is it any surprise that ultimately he returns to Saudi Arabia and she does not hear from him as she remains behind single and pregnant?
If you are a young Western woman and in a relationship with a Saudi, don’t think that this could never be you. This is happening. I receive pleas from young women who are pregnant by a Saudi who has returned back to the Kingdom. Most of these women want to be reunited with their Saudi. They are sure there is some misunderstanding or that he has been unable to contact her since he has returned. While it may sound harsh, I say remove the blinders! If a young woman is not hearing from her Saudi since he has returned to the Kingdom, it is likely by his choice.
Some of these women want to find a way that they can go to Saudi Arabia. They feel that if they are there he will reconsider and want to be with her. Again, a woman should not run after a man like that! If he did not make a commitment once he knew a woman was pregnant with his child, then the woman is better off making a separate life for herself and her child far away from Saudi Arabia.
The last thing a foreign woman should want is to go to a strange country where she will not have any say about the lifestyle and treatment she and her child may receive. Consider this, a Saudi may be pressured to get his child to the Kingdom. The young woman and her child may arrive but then she may shortly find herself shown on the next flight out without her child. Yes; this can happen! Be suspicious if a Saudi man who for all intents had abandoned a woman with his child has a sudden change of heart. I understand a woman wants to believe with all her heart that he has seen the need to change his ways but that may not be the case. If a Saudi family learned of a child, the young man may be pressured for the child to be brought to Saudi where it can be raised as a good Muslim. A western woman who gives birth to a child out of wedlock is unlikely to be accepted by a Saudi family.
This advice may sound harsh but it is stated with the best intentions for the woman in mind.