Saudi Arabia: Finding Comfort in Grief

I know that I cannot just assume anyone who comes to my blog on any given day is a repeat visitor.  Therefore, as I begin a series of posts about life and marriage to the love of my life, Abdullah Al-Ajroush, which I believe will give additional comfort in this time of grief, I realize I must also have some background for newcomers.  The following links share our primary love story and situation which led up to his premature demise from this world at the young age of 53.

And for you as readers, please bear with me as I digress slightly from some of my regular posting subjects towards reliving some of the most precious moments during my all too short time with Abdullah on this earth.

28 Responses

  1. Carol,

    Please know that I keep you in my prayers. I can’t tell you how much I admire your will, compassion, and decision to share so much with your readers. We have all learned more than you could imagine. Keep the faith. You are truly an inspiration.


  2. Carol,
    Feel free to write on any topic you want to share – this is your blog. I am sure your readers will only feel closer to you if you write about your life with Abdullah here.

  3. Carol,
    I’m so pleased that you will have posts about Abdullah!
    your such a strong woman…we all know this.
    but we want you to fight cancer and win this battle…..writing about the love of your life can only bring back happy memories.
    write about anything you wish! everyone will still be here amazed by what a wonderful person you are.
    your always in my prayers!

  4. Thank you all for the supporting comments.

  5. Please continue to share your memories with us…not only does it help celebrate his life, but we are grieving with you…

  6. Thank you Sara.

  7. Carol,

    Thanks for providing the links. I read back. Your story is beautiful and I can feel the strong bond that you had.

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  8. Carol,
    I’m so sorry for your loss. Please write about Abdulla. I, for one, would love to hear more about this man who became the center of your life and love.

  9. I have not been on your website for a while as I lost my brother suddenly in January and felt totally isolated in my grief. For some reason I visited your website today.
    Reading of your loss and wonderful love story just filled me with admiration for you and your husband and gave me an appreciation of all of the blessings in my own life. Yes we all lose dear ones, but to learn how to relish each moment with our loved ones is the key to learning how to find “comfort in our grief”. You certainly have shown me that.
    I want to thank you so much for sharing your love and life story with us. You have given so much to others, I pray that God will give you comfort, acceptance and the will to continue your wonderful website. THANKYOU so much.

  10. The only person you have to please Carol, is you. That’s the great thing about blogs, right? You get to be the editor and the publisher.

  11. Thank you to all the comments. I hope that in the forthcoming days everyone will enjoy the new direction of posts where I share experiences that highlight the uniqueness of my husband and why so many loved him.

  12. Please do share as you feel comfortable. You are in the thoughts and prayers of many.

  13. Carol,
    I appreicate all your topics as it so objective and informative about KSA–but mostly, very human blog too. You are in my prayers and I was very sad when I heard the news. You are truly a pillar of hope to others but at the same time I and others are here to support you. I am so blessed to have stumbled across this blog. It is such a blessing.
    Please take care of yourself. Everyone here is to support you.

  14. Carol, I am so sorry for your loss. I really do keep you in my prayers. I admire your strength and will so much. Insha’Allah, God will give you comfort and peace. I always have enjoyed reading your blog to the point it inspired me start my own.
    Take care and God bless you.

  15. Hi Carol,

    I haven’t been here for a while. I am shocked and truly sorry for your loss.

    May he rest in peace…

  16. Thank you all for the words of comfort and support.

    I regret that I am not in Saudi at this time or else I’d be able to add photos to many of the upcoming posts but I will make every effort to choose my words carefully to allow all to have an accurate image.

  17. Bedu
    It’s been a long time since I have visited. I was so shocked at reading of your loss, that I was speechless and upset. The are no words I can offer of comfort other than to say that every moment you relive memories of your life with your husband keeps him alive in your soul where he now resides for ever more…

    My heart, and my prayers go out to you; I know I would be needing the same should I lose the love of my life.

    Take care my dear…

  18. thank you Inal for your words of comfort. Cherish each and every moment with a loved one and never be afraid to say the words “I love you.”

  19. Yes Bedu, We say it in as many languages as we can. My near demise in May of 09 brought that message home in a big way. The euphoria of the following days, were replaced with a serious and urgent need to reconnect with my spouse and live with him, through him, by him, for him.

    Live for Abdullah, Bedu, he looks upon you and smiles- you are the love in his life, of his memories.

  20. Carol,

    It is with great sadness that i read today of the pasing of abdullah. Our heartfelt condolences to you. there are no words to describe your loss, i hope god grants you strength to bear the pain. He is probably looking down on you and smiling his love.


  21. I do take great comfort in believing he can look down upon me as well as others who were taken away too soon.

    Thank you Umm Bilal and Radhi.

  22. I am so sorry dear to hear of the loss of your husband. May God’s mercy and comfort be with you at this difficult time. You are a very strong person I’ve noticed from reading your words! I’ve been a follower of your blog for about a year, since I moved to Saudi with my husband. I haven’t kept up as often as I would have liked to but I have enjoyed your blog so much! We pray you will have victory over your cancer and definitely I will look forward to always reading your posts!

  23. Your personal stories are a major reason for reading your blog :-) You are in my prayers

  24. @Irene,

    Thank you so much for your kind words which give me a lot of comfort and peace. And I am also happy to hear that you have been enjoying reading American Bedu.

  25. @Khanserai,

    I’m glad that my personal stories are of interest to you and I appreciate the prayers very much.

  26. The best thing about memories is that they can never be taken from you. They are yours, will always be with you, ready to savor at a moment’s notice. Writing them out will keep them fresh and lovely as time goes on and throws sand around the edges.

  27. I like that Marahm.

  28. […] husband, Abdullah, always loved to watch Western movies and I mean Western in the sense of cowboys, Indians and […]

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