Saudi Arabia: Keep the Saudi Woman Out of the Air!

I found an opinion piece in the Saudi Gazette to be an interesting read.   A Saudi airlines passenger was noticing that a foreign female flight attendant was having difficulty in communicating with a Saudi family.  This passenger suggested to his (Saudi) seatmate that perhaps Saudi Airlines should hire Saudi female flight attendants instead.  The seatmate took offense at the suggestion.

I can understand why there was offense at the suggestion of having Saudi female flight attendants.  Sadly, there is a reputation among foreign female flight attendants who work for Saudi Airlines.  Perhaps most of the reputation is unfounded but a percentage of it is not.

While I don’t know the actual numbers, I know enough where the foreign female flight attendants have “hooked up” with Saudi passengers.  They either became second wives or mistresses.

For some reason, the female flight attendants on Saudi flights are viewed as “fair game.”  The female flight attendants are generally attractive women from Morocco, Tunisia, Britain and Lebanon.  Some come from other countries but the ones mentioned seem to be the most prominent.  

At the same time, one has to look at Saudi Arabia’s customs and culture.  The Saudi women is to be protected and shielded.  She is not to mingle or be exposed to unrelated men.  As a result, many Saudi women and their families would not view a flight attendant as a suitable job for a Saudi woman.  Part of the job requirement would be to wait upon and serve unrelated men.

Saudi women can and do work for Saudi airlines but not in the sky.  They may work behind the counters at Saudi airlines or in other administrative roles.  But to place them in the small confines of an aircraft during a long flight will not be acceptable among the majority of Saudi society.

Saudi Arabia: A Saudi National Wishes to Speak Out to the World

 

American Bedu received this email from a Saudi who asked that this message be shared on the blog.  I think it is important for views and perspectives to be exchanged so we can continue to learn from one another, especially when cultures and religion may be very different.  I think one of the most important points made in this email is the statement that ‘Saudis are not Islam.’

I thank the Saudi individual for taking the time to write this message.

 

 

Hello,

Saudi Arabia is not another plant, it’s just like any other country. You’ll meet bad and good people, and as is always the case goods out wight the bads.
If you want to have a good relationship with Saudis, please understand the following things.
1- Religion, Islam, is a red line for the majority of them. They’re willing to discuss many matters with you regarding their religion, but once they feel you are insulting it, they’ll get defensive. So, it’s O.K to ask why do you do this or that? but they will not accept saying or implying that this wrong( you could say I disagree). Also, you may have some people who will attack your belief to defend theirs, but again those are rare.
2-Saudis are generous in general. They are raised to be like this as many other Arabs( Being generous is encouraged in the Arabic culture pre-Islam, and Islam has enforced this concept). So, please, when you see us act like this, don’t think that we are fools or that we have more money than we need.
3-The majority of Saudi men respects women, and the majority of women doesn’t feel oppressed by men. Of course, there are some cases. When men and women in Saudi Arabia discuss the right of women, the majority of them are just trying to have the maximum freedom that the religion has given them. What I am saying is that the standard and the idea of women right is totally different than that of western civilization. As a result, you may use the same term in English ” women rights’, but the meaning and ramifications are  totally different. I again emphasis that Saudi usually judge these matters by their understanding of religion, which could vary from a person to another.
4- Most Saudis extremely love their parents. The mother is usually more loved than the father.
5-Saudi men are Not used to interact with strange women, and of course they get tired when they see a non-modest woman as all men do. The fact that sexes are separated may create this issue, which BTW is widely accepted by both sexes but the argument often come to the extent by which this should be applied.
6-Don’t mix things together. Saudis are not Islam.
7-It’s common for Saudi students to cheat in test as a mean of helping their friends, even though it’s forbidden by religion and Arabic culture.
8-The education system is noticeably weak.
9-When a Saudi invite you to Islam, that’s mean s/he really like and wish you all good. Because they truly believe in their religion and that it’s the only right path to haven, they’ll invite you to it ( don’t get confused when you see them ignore some aspects of it, because this is another story)
I find myself forced to say that there are goods and bads, and it’s your call to know with whom you should interact.
Finally, if you are willing to respect their red lines and socialize with them, you’ll find many loyal friends.
I forget to tell you that it’s 5:30 a.m and I haven’t slept yet, just in case you wonder why we come to school lazy and late :D .
I hope you all enjoy being in Saudi Arabia or teaching Saudis abroad.

Saudi Arabia: Are Allah and Yahweh the Same God?

When referring to God, one may hear God referred to by the name of Allah or perhaps by the name of Yahweh.  In fact, many names have been given to God.

However, a question I hear commonly asked is whether Christians and Muslims believe in or worship the same God.  Muslims, who identify Mohammed as the Prophet of God, believe in Allah.  Whereas Christians, who believe Jesus is the son of God, believe in Yahweh.

So do Muslims recognize Jesus or Christians recognize Mohammed?  Are the respective God’s one and the same?

Daniel Janosik of Columbia International University wrote an interesting article on this same subject.  I’d like to encourage American Bedu readers to view the article by Janosik and then share their views.

I think it is important to build bridges of understanding between Muslims and Christians but first of all, can we agree on who or what is God?

Saudi Arabia: What is an End of Service Benefit?

Many expatriates elect to work in a place such as Saudi Arabia due to the lucrative incentives they are offered.  These incentives include generous tax free salaries (in most cases), housing allowance, transport allowance, medical coverage, paid vacation and ultimately, in lieu of retirement, an End of Service Benefit (ESB).

There are expatriates who spend most of their life working in the Kingdom for an employer.  While they receive a decent salary and incentive package it is unlikely that funds are removed from the salary towards retirement as is common in other places of the world.  This is where the ESB is key to an expatriate whose work in the Kingdom comes to an end after many years of faithful service.

The ESB is provided in lieu of a standard retirement and if invested wisely, the expatriate has the funds for a comfortable retirement upon departure from the Kingdom.

According to the Saudi Arabia Board of Labor, Article 84 of the Labor Law has explicitly stated the benefits to be paid for the expatriates. It is proportional to the number of years he or she has stayed with a particular sponsor.

There are certain exceptions, though. If an expatriate has resigned within the first two years of service, he is not entitled to any ESB. If he has resigned between two to five years of continuous service, he is entitled to one third of the salary as ESB. If he has resigned between five years up to ten years of continuous service, he is entitled to two thirds of the salary and to a full salary, beyond 10 years of continuous service. 

 

It may be confusing for an expatriate to determine what ESB he or she is entitled to.  The equation has been explained to me as follows:  An expat professional must work for two years before it kicks in. Then for the first five years you get one half months salary per year and each year after that it is one months salary. However,  the ESB is calculated on the Basic salary (paid per year) plus the benefits given which should total max up to 2 months Basic salary per year. If it is more, then it is calculated on the greater sum. This is called the Actual Salary and the ESB is then done….one half months salary for the first 5 years based on the Actual Salary and one month each year after. Add it up and that is the ESB payment that should be made. Some employers give one month per year period and also add a bonus to it. However that is up the individual employer.  The required amount is 1/2 month for the first 5 yrs and then 1 month each year after based on Actual salary. Actual salary is figured using your housing costs, car/transportation costs or worth, any other benefits given.

 

The  Ministry of Labor/Law in Saudi Arabia will not  uphold a contract that is not  written in Arabic…gets tossed out. Usually they are written in both Arabic and English. AND…the contract does not need to be in writing…it is acceptable  under the Law verbally. A lot of expats don’t know that. But if it is a written one it had better be in both Arabic and English and they aren’t going to bother with one written by some legal group outside of here either.

 

The ESB is to be paid to professional employees no later than ONE WEEK following the last paycheck and non professionals no later than TWO WEEKS following the last paycheck.

Western expats need to understand their ‘rights’ under the Law. They should also be aware that there can be a distinction in how the law is followed depending on whether an expatriate has a company as an employer or worked directly for an individual.  There are sadly documented instances of some expatriates who have worked exclusively for some members of the Royal Family have not received an ESB in a timely manner, if at all.

 

Muhammad Jaber Nader also gives a detailed explanation to Arab News on how to calculate the End of Services Benefit.

If you have been an expatriate in Saudi Arabia, please share your experience in obtaining your ESB.  Were you able to obtain it in a timely manner and in the amount expected?  Or, have you been unable to obtain your ESB?  If so, what difficulties have you encountered?

Saudi Arabia/USA: Kudos on an Exceptional Intelligence Coup

There is no doubt that the acquisition of a new generation “underwear bomb” from Al Qaeda in the Arab Peninsula (AQAP) is an intelligence coup.  The device was acquired in its entirety and in working order provided by a double agent who had penetrated AQAP at the highest of levels.

Earliest reports citing a double agent were attributed to the CIA.  Later reports indicate that the double agent was a Saudi national who under the direction of Saudi Intelligence penetrated AQAP.

Regardless, this was a well-oiled operation which undoubtedly required close cooperation between both Saudi and American intelligence organizations.

To put it very mildly, it is no small feat for an individual to get into the inner circles of AQAP, obtain highly sensitive and actionable intelligence, acquire the latest suicide bomb technology plus device and get out of the terrorist organization intact.

While I am exceptionally proud of both intelligence organizations and this exceptional coup, my question is, did the world really need to know so much about this operation?  Granted, there is much that has not been publicly disclosed but what has been publicly disclosed still poses additional risks on its own.

I applaud and take off my hat to the individual who penetrated the network and escaped with the suicide device.  That took courage, conviction and exceptional training to pull off.  However in some ways I wish it had been reported that this individual lost his life at some point rather than simply escape.  Now he and his extended family are going to among those on AQAP’s most wanted, get revenge list.

AQAP is now tipped off in part to the means and methods of intelligence operations.  They’ll be doing their own assessment and damage control, but you can be certain that at some point they’ll regroup with new methods and techniques of wreaking havoc.

I realize it is an election year for America and that both Saudi Arabia and America do like to showcase the closeness of their relationship and that the two countries remain strong allies.

What do you think?  Are you pleased to receive details about this extraordinary operation?  Do you think too many details have been released?  Would you be okay not knowing that such operations take place?  Do you think AQAP is now more or less of a threat?  Who is the greatest threat now of AQAP?  The United States or Saudi Arabia?

Saudi Arabia: It’s Okay to be a Girl!

 

There are many world wide who talk about the women of Saudi Arabia saying they are oppressed and have no freedom.  There are also women both in and outside of Saudi Arabia who are pleased and satisfied with their life.  They feel cherished, loved and protected.

It’s not the responsibility of non-Saudis to apply pressure to Saudi women that they should change.  If Saudi women want some aspects of their life and culture changed, then THEY need to be the ones to initiate the change.

At least it IS okay to be a girl in Saudi Arabia.  Other places have it much much worse…

Saudi Arabia: Three Marriages to the Same Guy Without a Divorce

It’s not an easy or simple process for a foreign woman to travel to Saudi Arabia as the legal spouse of a Saudi man.  It took Abdullah and I three separate marriages and almost 3 years to receive the marriage approval and in our case, our marriage ultimately had to be approved by King Abdullah.

I smile though as I think back on the three different ceremonies we had during our short seven years of marriage together before he passed away.

The first ceremony was a traditional and private Islamic ceremony with the two of us and two witnesses.  The imam, following Arab tradition, insisted that my name be cited on the marriage certificate in Arab style with my first name followed by my father’s first name.  In other words, Carol Mike married Abdullah Othman Al-Ajroush.

Needless to say when we are starting our processing for our journey to Saudi Arabia we had a problem.  The name on the marriage certificate did not match the name on my passport or other important documents.  So, we had marriage ceremony number two.

The second marriage took place in our home in Northern Virginia.  Several of Abdullah’s colleagues from the Saudi Embassy were our witnesses.  The Imam from the Islamic Center of Washington performed the ceremony.  Not only did the marriage certificate reflect my full true and correct name, it was in both Arabic and English and witnessed with the signatures of Saudi officials.

Then, Abdullah was the one who insisted that we have a third marriage ceremony.  He wanted to be assured that our marriage was also legally recognized and recorded in the United States.  For our third ceremony, we had a private and lovely civil ceremony performed in our home.  My son and daughter-in-law stood up with us as witnesses.

Now when we arrived in Saudi Arabia, initially his family suggested another ceremony.  Thankfully, Abdullah persuaded his family that a “delayed” wedding party (reception) in honor of our marriage(s) would be more than sufficient.

Abdullah and I were both romantics so we took pleasure in celebrating each of our three individual wedding anniversaries annually.

Saudi Arabia: Truth or Exaggeration?

An article appeared last month in Arab News in which an American teacher claims she has been held against her will in Saudi Arabia for more than 400 days.  That’s a pretty strong statement to make.

Trina Flowers infers that she was brought to Saudi Arabia under false pretences.  She stated her papers indicated she was to work at King Saud University but was sent to Najran University. She arrived to the Kingdom on a visit visa and describes how the other teachers she knew all had visit visas rather than work visas.  The visit visa would be renewed every 90 days according to the article.

According to Ms. Flowers she was unhappy with the situation and wished to leave Saudi Arabia.  However she claims that the company for whom she worked did not comply with her wishes and that soon she became an expat in the Kingdom without a valid visa due to the expiration of the visitor visa.

At the time the article was published in Arab News, Ms. Flowers claims to be homeless and penniless.  She was staying at a hotel while awaiting to receive a valid visa and compensation which she says is due to her.  She alleges to other wrongdoings on the part of the company.

Until her situation is resolved she has placed advertisements to teach English in exchange for food.

I may sound harsh but I find this account suspect and a little too theatrical.  Or is Ms. Flowers really that naïve?  If so, she should never be working abroad.  Nowhere In the article is there any mention that she attempted to contact the American Embassy which has a U.S. Citizen Services Officer whose job is to provide assistance in such circumstances.  The US Embassy could certainly assist Ms. Flowers to leave the Kingdom as she claims to desire.

In fact, any expat in Saudi Arabia, should register their presence in Saudi Arabia with their local embassy.  This way, in the event of any conflict or emergency, the embassy knows how to contact its citizens.  In turn, expats can contact their embassies for advice and guidance in situations where they do not have control or do not know what to do.  Most embassies will allow a citizen to register their presence through the embassy’s web site.

Back back to Ms. Flowers, does her story sound like truth or exaggeration?

Saudi Arabia/USA: What’s Up With American Bedu?

For those who have been following American Bedu for awhile are already aware that I have been battling cancer since 2008.  I’ve taken readers step by step through the highs and lows of my journey.  I shared how my cancer was initially discovered and treated while living in Riyadh with my Saudi husband.  I’ve talked about the loss of my own husband to this dreaded disease.  I’ve written comparisons about distinctions in cancer care between Saudi Arabia and the USA.

For the last few months I have been undergoing a phase I clinical trial particularly because the cancer decided to spread from my bones to the liver. While the clinical trial would have some side effects, I actually had never felt so good and able to so active since my initial treatment.  I felt like I was living a “nearly normal” life again.  I could work out at the local Y, eat the foods I enjoyed without ill effects and had a good head of hair again!

Last week I went to the local hospital to receive scans which would indicate the present status of my cancer.  Feeling so well I was very optimistic that the scans would indicate the cancer had either gone away or that the tumors had shrunk substantially.  Therefore it was quite a shock when I regrouped with my oncologist to learn that in actuality the cancer in the liver had grown and spread substantially.  It had gone from five (cancerous) lesions to more than 40!

As a result I am no longer in the clinical trial.  I am going to see a radiologist oncologist who specializes in treatment of the liver for an assessment to determine if I’d be a suitable candidate.  Then next Monday I regroup with my regular oncologist for the new plan of battle.

I’m okay.  Yes; I had my two day pity party when I learned the initial news.  Since then I’ve regrouped and started researching and gathering information.  I have a list of questions prepared for my oncologist and I am ready mentally, spiritually and physically for this next phase of my own  personal War Against Cancer.

 

 

Saudi Arabia: Hello!

 

The following video is a rebuttal to an unidentified video that someone else had made which I am assuming was very negative about Saudi Arabia.  Although the young man in this video does not identify himself or where he is from, his accent sounds American to me.  You  may notice that he also calls himself “American Badu” (rather than American Bedu)…coincidence or not?

I did enjoy watching the video but I wished it had provided some more background so a first time viewer had a better understanding of his rebuttal.

What would your youtube video say?  Better yet, how about YOU make one and have it posted on American Bedu.

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